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Okay, we talked about this this past Wednesday at Fusion. (If not, listen to the message @ http://www.fusionatl.org/p/12081/Default.aspx) What are your thoughts on this?

What are some ways that we can become complete in God...so we don't go looking for a guy or girl to "complete us" (STINKIN' JERRY MCGUIRE!!!!)???? I think this is really important stuff b/c it's a trap that so many of us fall into.

I think it was a GREAT point to make! With all the movies, books, and fairy tales out there we are so easy and quick to believe that when we find that one person (out of the 6 Billion in the world) all our problems (in our lives) will be over and life will just be cloud 9 until the return of Christ. Sadly that is far FAR from the case of how the system really works.

I mean, well I don't really know because (of course), I'm not married. But I do know that I have plenty of issues on my own. And to think, if I don't solve my issues before entering into a relationship of any kind, and that other person doesn't do the same... Then we have two people with a load of personal issues coming together and instead of subtracting it adds up... No... It Multiplies even. Because on top of all the issues we have going into relationships, we develop new issues and situations once in the relationship. And some of these issues that form once we're in a relationship only "spawn" because we haven't dealt with the issues before.

Like if we're insecure before a relationship, then we're even more insecure (or even paranoid) in that relationship. Wondering where the other person is, what their doing, calling them every 5 seconds and leaving 5 minute messages. This all will lead to trust issues... Issues that wouldn't be there had the person been "whole" and secure in the Lord before getting in that relationship.

I think the most valuable thing we can have and learn in life is that all we need to complete us is Christ. No other person can fill that void in us, only He is the one who will have us thirst no longer. I mean really... People will fail us, those we even love the must will hurt us the most, and if we don't know who we are in the Lord, and if we aren't first made complete in Him. Then we'll join the statistics of divorces, affairs, and abuses that already plague our generation and even the church. I was at lunch with someone recently and he told me that he is how he is with his wife, not only because he loves her, because there will be times where he's upset at her, hurt by her or let down by her. But he is how he is with her because he doesn't want to hurt Jesus. When we're whole in the Lord we seek to please Him. I mean yes, we love our "significant other" but in the end, when that other person makes us angry, we must lean on Christ. It's VITAL to lean on Christ because our human emotions are... Human.

So yea, I really liked the message and definitely can agree with everything. We need to be complete in the Lord. I've usually heard it said like this: Two half cups cannot make a whole cup, BUT two whole cups make one overflowing cup.

If we are whole in the Lord and our cups are full/overflowing from our relationship with Him, then when we finally do meet that other person, God can do overly abundant things with those two people because they rely and depend on Him and His strength above that of the other.

So yea, it was a GREAT word. A branch cannot sustain a branch, the only thing that can sustain the branch, and nurture it, is the vine...

I used to go around thinking I had to find my "other" half but after having disastrous results it allowed me to rethink how I went about being in a relationship. It makes sense that God is the only one that can complete you because just like Jose said, people will hurt you and disappoint you. You can't have someone else complete you because when they leave either voluntary or involuntary you will feel like you are no longer whole and then you will go to other things to try to fill that void. The great thing with being complete with God is that he will never ever ever leave you; no matter how many times you mess up so you are on a different confidence level and you are secure in yourself and it won't matter who comes in and out of your life it won't affect how you view yourself as a person.