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Before I came into my Christian life style. One thing really frighten me and that was the number of single Christian women in the church. I thought these women are beautiful, smart, and seeking god something is being concealed. It was not long before the answer was revealed Desperation, Feeling Of Entitlement because you are a Christian Woman but don't do anything for anyone but yourself, and Physical Appearance (looking for wrong qualities). Those were the issues I observe immediately. LADIES RELAX! Majority of women would like to have a spouse, children, a dog with the picket fence and if we have good eyes these things will eventually elapse. Sisters stop the foolishness we are looking like CLOWNS!! Stop giving these males so much consideration, most are not worthy anyway. If you are occupying a relationship stop being a lap dog. God knows date, time, and person Trust.

With love your sister Alex
Matthew 9:37

LOL I love you Alex!

Ok? has something happened to make you say all of this? I don't really see what you see. Could you please explain yourself? Are you writing this to a specific person? What are you really trying to say?

There are a vast number of women in the church donating their attention to males who are not worthy, or the male feelings may not be identical causing heartbreak, or strife. Some ladies occupy a relationship and all their time and energy goes into that, idolize no balance. All the while the world around us is in disarray there is plenty labor to do, if we are single. I'm not at all declaring there is anything wrong with courting and marriage but it should not consume us.

I understand that you have a problem with that, but it just sounds to me like maybe there is something that has happened to make you feel so strongly. Your words just seemed pretty harsh, and maybe I was a little offended being a woman and you were talking to women. I could be wrong, maybe that was not your intentions, but it just came across as harsh. Saying you know that it looked like a clown. I just think that some of the wording was harsh and offensive. There seems to be a root as to what your really trying to say. Yes, you have a point in some aspects, but there has to be more to what your saying. Your post makes me question that something has not happened to offend you. [/quote]

"LADIES RELAX! [/b]Majority of women would like to have a spouse, children, a dog with the picket fence and if we have good eyes these things will eventually elapse. Sisters stop the foolishness we are looking like CLOWNS!! Stop giving these males so much consideration, most are not worthy anyway. If you are occupying a relationship stop being a lap dog. "

The words like "lap dog", and "CLOWNS" is just offensive to me. There is a way to get the point accross without demeaning women. When you say majority, I have to disagree with you. I have met countless women there at fusion whose focus is totally on God and I quite frankly have not met any "lap dogs" or "CLOWNS". I have met serious women of God. The thing is where do we keep our focus? Im sorry, I don't know why this post hit me so hard, but I just don't get it. Theres more to the story I have to believe.

Sorry, I couldn't get everything I wanted to say in the last post.

And once again another area where men of God need to start filling in their shoes.

The man should take all the risk in the relationship, period. The men in the body of Christ need to do everything necessary to protect the brother sister dynamic until the Lord give the go-ahead "if" He gives it.

The fault does not lie in our sisters, it lies in our brothers. If we were stepping up our "game" spiritually so to speak, and truly protecting with our love like 1 Cor 13:7 says then this wouldn't be an issue.

The Bible does tell us to guard our hearts in Proverbs 4:23, but I as your brother should be no reason for you to get distracted from the Father.

If I am really worth my "britches" as a brother then I am pushing you towards Him.

Holy Spirit Through
~Samuel

It is not important what, who, where, it is my observation. Take something from it or not. Tough pill.

Alex you are correct. I know at least three females who are always checking for certain guys in the church. Concern about who else likes them, where they hang out, and spending majority of the phone time discussing this foolishness but when I asked them to tutor at the school no show. I'm not saying these women do not love God but they are not seeking his face like they are researching these guys. Some has also stop associating with other women in the church over a guy, who does not acknowledge any of them but who chose to just flirt.

At last some real talk I had to register. I'll take something. Kelly I think you are taking this out of context she is clearly using analogies it really does look silly, at least I did several years ago when I decided to assume God had a certain individual for me. I sort of did feel entitled because I was saved and living a christian lifestyle. I approached this person after we had been hanging out and talking on the phone for almost a year. He basically told me he was not interested. I was angry at God thinking I am a good chirstian girl going to church and reading the bible why not but he told me why because on Jan 3, 2008 until March 13, 2008 I was in Mozambique, Africa serving with my parents. So God had other plans for me while I was trying to play cupid. She does care that fact that she took the time to share no one else bothered. My father and mother are always laughing at how silly I was behaving. I laugh to it is funny.

You now what Kel I feel you sis... Like a spirit of bitterness. I don't see clowns or lap dogs, I do see some mislead and confused daughters of the Most High , and refering to your sisters like that definitely doesn't make the Lord happy. Truth be told we all need take a long and hard at ourselves.

Forget "observations" get to the root and not at the fruit. I love you sis.

I get what Alex is saying, I know a few women in the church who are beautiful and precious, but due to their misleadings by men, they start to build friendships with these men and eventually start to go out there way for these men doing things that a unmarried should not be doing for a man (Playing Wifey). In the long run these women have invested in something that might not go anywhere.

Wow, well One Thing should be our pursuit, and that is to love God and others. I think as women we are not positioning ourselves to not be distracted by men sometimes and so therefore I do understand what Alex is saying, she is speaking truth but, I agree with Sam its more of mislead and confused princesses. I think women need to desire one thing right now, and what I have learned is that your actions, and time you spend will show what you are pursing, and God is a jealous God, and he wants all of you!!!!! I have been down that road unexpectantly and all I know is this , if you really love God for who is and you have a prayer life that is intimate, then you will not let nothing get in the way of that because his love will consume you. We do need to relax and guard our hearts and be discerning. We need to ask ourselves this question what am I spending most of my time doing and thinking about and is it bringing me closer to GOD? God loves us and he knows what is best for us. Invest your time in JESUS, he will give you what you need, like Alex said we need to be labors for the KINGDOM of GOD and if we are distracted we cant because JESUS isnt consuming our time, just going to church and singing worship songs dosent save souls. Just ask yourself what is my focus and let the spirit of God show you. Be bless ladies and realize you have been brought with a price and you are valuable.

I am not saying that I disagree, what I am saying is that the way the post was worded, I think was degrating, and quite frankly looked like a lot of bitterness, and maybe resentment. There has to be a better way of explaining or getting the point out without offending or cutting down women. Those girls that are doing those things you talk about are hurting, and there is a root issue to their behavior. All behavior is stemmed in a root. The thing is what is that root? Are we doing all we can to love our sisters right where they are? And maybe if you have an issue, go to that sister in love. What I saw in that post did not show love. Sam what you said was a motivation to your fellow brothers. You also took responsibility for the male gender. You spoke your words, they were true, but I don't see how someone could be offended by your words because they were words of conviction NOT condemnation. God's words ALWAYS convict NEVER CONDEMN. That is ALL that I am saying. Yes, you may have a valid point, but the words that were used whether they be "just sayings" or not, they are condemning and therefore for some are not received. If there are a few (which someone else said it is just a few and not the majority) then please just go to those few. I don't think it is the majority of women that we are talking to here. Talk to them in love so that it is well received. It is all in the presentation as to how the information is received. There can be a "tough pill" to swallow and the words be received. I know that Johnson delivers VERY powerful messages that are very hard to swallow, but to someone that needs to make a change in their lives they are able to do that because of the way and the word choice that he uses.

Your words can bring either life or death. It is your choice. Proverbs 18:21 "The tongue can bring life or death; those who love to talk will reap the consequences."

I am in the pathway to healing class, and we just got done talking about the power of our words. I am really trying to learn that, and it says in God's word that words are a very hard thing to bridle, but if a man can bridle his tongue, then he is a perfect man able also to bridle the whole body. James 3:2

I am not saying that I am there yet, but I want God to disect MY heart and show me what is really going on here. One thing it said in our book that stuck out to me is this. "Just as the fruit of a tree reveals the care it has received, likewise, a man's speech discloses the level of regard he places on the words he speaks; his words also unveil the condition of his heart." My prayer is that God would reveal His heart in this to me. I pray that he would search my heart and I would come to understand why I feel this way about this post. One last thing. In our book, we have something in there that Pastor D. spoke on about words. That our words should be like a spoon, that will Lift instead of cutting and jabbing, they would encourage instead of Lying and putting down, they would Edify instead of criticizing and Negatively speaking, that they would Create something positive instead of finding fault and bringing people down, and that they would uphold instead of sowing strife and stabbing.

I hate to say this but the truth hurts, remember when Jesus called that women a dog Matt 15:26, instead of getting upset and offended she kept persistently seeking healing from Jesus. I may have taken that story out of context a little bit, but sometimes the truth does not always came out the way we want it to. IF I am doing anything that is will eventually led to self-destruction please let me know. There are too many precious women that are throwing their peals to the swine. I think our primary focus should be on God. We should not be concerned about the opposite sex.